Aviation for Women

JUL-AUG 2018

Aviation for Women is the flagship member publication of Women in Aviation International. Articles feature women who have made aviation history, professional development ideas, and current-topic articles.

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18 AviationforWomen J U L Y / A U G U S T 2 0 1 8 Perception is reality. Unfair, but true. Your impressive résumé and your sterling work product don't mean much if you are perceived as less than the strong and capable woman you are. Think of how your language impacts the impression you make on your colleagues and senior management. Small changes can make a big difference, so here are 10 ways to improve your image simply by adding strength and resolve to your words. 1. Stop apologizing. I'm sorry you can't find my email. I'm sorry that was difficult for you. I'm sorry I don't understand your explanation. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. Way back when a friend who worked in IT was teaching me how to use a PC, I kept saying, "I'm sorry," when I tapped the wrong key or forgot her in- structions. Finally, my friend blurted out, "Stop apologizing!" It was like having cold water thrown in my face. Apologizing was so automatic that I didn't even realize I was doing it. I related this story to a friend who said she had done the same thing as a student pilot. She continually apologized for every wrong move she made. Finally, in exasperation, her flight instruc- tor said, "Stop apologizing. You're a student pilot. You're supposed to do it wrong." The reason we apologize more than men is that we have a low- er threshold for what constitutes offensive behavior on our part. That's according to a 2010 study in the Journal of Psychologi-

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